Helping men get 3+ dates in 60 days with women they actually want. Or you don’t pay ↓
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At 21 I'd never had a girlfriend.
6 years later: 100+ first dates, 3 LTRs and countless situationships.
How I went from 0 to 100 real quick:
1. The 8/10 Rule
2. Straight Line Texting
3. The Lazy Opener
4. The Double Text Method (most hated)
5. The Little Black Book
5. The Little Black Book
Most guys' little black book is a list of numbers. Mine was a notebook of every first date I went on.
After each one, I sat down and wrote it out. Where we went, what we talked about, where it flowed, where it went flat, how it ended, and whether she wanted to see me again.
Most guys go on a date, it fizzles out, and they put it down to no chemistry. Then they go on the next one and make the same mistakes.
Over 100+ first dates, my notes turned into a playbook. I could see exactly what worked, so I did more of it:
- the conversation topics that got her opening up
- the lines that built attraction
- the lines that moved us smoothly to a second venue, and back to mine
- what I did on the dates that turned into a second one
Every date made the next one better, because I wasn't guessing anymore.
Clients get my black book from day one: every topic, line and venue move that's worked for me. Then we keep building it with theirs. Before each date we do a pre-date debrief. After it, they talk me through everything that happened, start to finish. We break it down, find what worked, and add it to the book for next time.
That's the system.
Six years ago I was 21, stuck at home in lockdown, and I'd never had a girlfriend. I refined all of this around a demanding full-time job, so I know what it's like to fit dating around one.
In the last few months I've been on calls with nearly 40 men about their dating lives. Most of them are doing well everywhere else. Dating is the one part that isn't working, and it usually breaks at one of three points:
- not enough matches with women they're excited about (the 8/10 Rule)
- chats that go dry or never turn into a date (Straight Line Texting)
- first dates that don't lead to a second (the Little Black Book)
Whether you want a girlfriend or you just want to get laid, it starts with dates. I'll get you them.
You send me your profile and your chats. We fix your profile together, I give you exactly what to send, and I prep you before every date. Make the changes, use the scripts and keep sending me your chats.
If you don't get at least 3 dates in 60 days with women you chose to meet, I keep coaching you for free until you do.
DM me "SYSTEM", or book a free call here:
go.thedatingos.com/audit?src…
Comfort is a sedative
-agree with everything
-reply instantly
-tell her she's amazing on day one
& the attraction goes straight to sleep
Tension first. Comfort later
After 100+ first dates, these did more for me than my looks ever did:
-talk slower than feels natural
-hold eye contact 2 seconds longer than she does
-lean back. Let her lean in
-tease her drink order
-touch her arm when she laughs
-talk about something you're obsessed with, not your job
-be the one who ends the night
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None of it costs money. None of it needs height or a 6 pack
It's BEHAVIOUR. & behaviour can be learned
A girl who teases you is flirting
A girl who's polite to you is being polite
Learn the difference & your life gets a lot easier
When she cancels the date, there's ONE test that matters:
Does she offer another day?
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If YES:
You "No worries, Thursday instead?"
Lock it in. Move on. Don't make it weird
Don't ask why. Don't say "honestly it's fine". Don't make her feel guilty
A girl who reschedules is still in
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If NO:
You "No worries"
& then nothing. Leave it
-don't chase
-don't send 3 follow-ups
-don't ask what you did wrong
If she wants to see you, she knows where you are
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What most guys miss:
The reply that wins her back isn't a clever text. It's NO reaction at all
A man with options doesn't panic over one cancelled drink
I've had girls cancel, go quiet for a week, then book the next date themselves. Because I didn't chase
Tinder rewards looks. Hinge rewards game
On Tinder she judges one photo in half a second
On Hinge she reads your prompts & your comment
If you're an average looking guy with a bit of personality, stop swiping where only faces count
If you're sending "good morning beautiful" before you've met her, you've already lost
You're acting like her boyfriend & she doesn't even know what you smell like yet
Second date rules:
1 - Book it within 3 days of the first
Momentum dies fast. Wait a week & you're starting from zero
2 - Different setting
If date one was drinks, add movement. A market, a walk to a second bar
3 - Closer to your place
Not by accident
4 - Touch from the start
Hug hello, hand on her back, hold her hand crossing the road. Date one was the test, this one isn't
5 - Kiss her EARLY
Don't save it for the goodbye. The tension's been building since date one
6 - Less life story
You've done the interview. Now just have FUN
7 - Tease more, explain less
She already likes you. Stop selling
8 - End it at yours
"Come back to mine for one more", said like you mean it
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Most guys treat date 2 like date 1 again & end up as her mate
Date 2 isn't a repeat. It's the ESCALATION
Every second date I've lost, I broke rule 4 or 5
