Denise G. Lee

Since I got a bunch of new followers, I think an introduction is needed: My name is Denise G. Lee and I am life coach for business owners. I am here to share what I have learned about trauma and addictions to help everyone, including myself heal and live the life they were meant to live. I do this work because I was sexually, verbally and physically abused by my mother from age birth until I was 14 years old. My father was a womanizer who gave me sick and abusive mother-substitutes when I stopped living with my mother after she tried to kill me with a box knife. I am a sexual assault survivor, recovering alcoholic and sex addict. Trust me - I know trauma. But I also know healing. I have spent hundreds of hours working with people and understanding trauma and healing work. Here are some resources to help you on your healing journey: ✅Amazing Attitude (on demand course - deniseglee.newzenler.com/cou…) ✅My Podcast (Introverted Entrepreneur - anchor.fm/deniseglee) ✅Articles - deniseglee.com/blog If you have questions, please tag me @deniseglee and I will do my best to answer your questions. Thanks for following me and I wish you the best on your healing journey.

Just because someone wants to know the answer, doesn't mean they are ready, equipped or prepared to deal with the solution.

When a coach answers a hard question with “You’re blocked,” the client gets blame instead of clarity. That’s one warning sign of performative healing I name here. Read: deniseglee.com/unqualified-l…

Being ambitious or independent isn’t inherently unhealthy. Neither is being receptive or emotionally aware inherently healthy. The problem starts when one way of functioning becomes the only way you know how to feel safe. open.spotify.com/episode/5fZ…

Sometimes you’re not outgrowing people because you became “too much.” You simply stopped being the version of yourself that overgave, stayed quiet, and kept everyone comfortable. 🎙️ #702: Why You’re Outgrowing People Faster Than You Expected open.spotify.com/episode/0vT…

Contempt can also become psychologically useful. If I can decide that you are stupid, lazy, weak, entitled, hopeless, or beneath me, I do not have to spend very much time examining what your behavior brings up in me. deniseglee.com/helping-every…

You do not need more charisma. You need emotional sobriety. If your nervous system is running your leadership, no amount of strategy will fix the deeper problem. 🎙️ #701: What Emotional Sobriety Changes That Nothing Else Can open.spotify.com/episode/0mk…

Maybe you're not hard to love. Maybe you've become so good at protecting yourself that nobody can reach you. There’s a difference between solitude that restores you and distance that keeps you hidden. open.spotify.com/episode/3iN…

Maybe you are not “bad at intimacy.” Maybe distance became part of your personality because closeness once felt unsafe. Emotional intimacy is not oversharing or losing your boundaries. It is a skill. 🎙️ Episode #699 open.spotify.com/episode/0fS…

What if a boy's definition of manhood came from managing his mother's emotions? Episode #698 explores how mother-son enmeshment becomes an emotional education in manhood. open.spotify.com/episode/7aR…

You don't rebuild self-trust by collecting more credentials. You rebuild it by keeping the promises you make to yourself. Episode #697 explores why so many capable leaders stop trusting their own judgment—and how to change it. open.spotify.com/episode/3tI…

Why You Over-Explain (And Why You Don't Owe Everyone a Debrief) Jacob stared at the draft email.The subject line was blank.The body wasn't.Paragraph after paragraph explained what happened, why it happened, what the team needed t... deniseglee.com/why-you-over-…

If They Wanted To, They Would It usually starts the same way.They tell me what happened.Then they tell me why it happened.And somewhere in that explanation is a familiar conclusion:"If they wanted to, they would."... deniseglee.com/if-they-wante…

How Your Father Shaped the Way You Relate to Men (Without You Realizing It) Years ago, while listening to Dr. Pat Allen's radio show, she recommended Fathers and Daughters by Dr. William S. Appleton. I bought the book, highli... deniseglee.com/father-emotio…

Emotional intimacy isn't a personality trait. It's a skill. Not oversharing. Not people-pleasing. Not performing vulnerability. Just honest, steady connection built over time. New podcast: #696 Emotional Intimacy Is a Skill. open.spotify.com/episode/1H2…

You can't change a pattern you don't recognize. The Emotional Pattern Framework™ explains how childhood experiences ➡️ beliefs, beliefs ➡️ life scripts, life scripts ➡️ survival responses, & survival responses shape adulthood. Awareness creates choice. Choice creates change.

Why You Over-Explain (And Why You Don't Owe Everyone a Debrief) Jacob stared at the draft email.The subject line was blank.The body wasn't.Paragraph after paragraph explained what happened, why it happened, what the team needed t... deniseglee.com/why-you-over-…

People admire your strength. They rarely notice what it costs you. Episode #695 explores why survival strategies eventually expire—and why emotional honesty is often the bravest thing a leader can do. open.spotify.com/episode/1zW…

If They Wanted To, They Would It usually starts the same way.They tell me what happened.Then they tell me why it happened.And somewhere in that explanation is a familiar conclusion:"If they wanted to, they would."... deniseglee.com/if-they-wante…

You don't have imposter syndrome because you're unqualified. You may have it because your nervous system learned that visibility wasn't safe. In this episode, I explore why imposter syndrome is often a trauma echo—not the truth. 🎧 Listen: open.spotify.com/episode/56T…