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THREAD: Law School Didn’t Teach You This. But It Should Have
The legal profession won't hand you success.
You must build it.
Here’s the truth no one tells you in law school:
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1. Law is a Business of People, Not Just Paper
Finally I have coined a quote that best explains my disposition to life: FORMALITY DOES NOT EQUAL MATURITY.
You see people think that by acting formal that they are mature. For your perusal, so you can arrive at the same conclusion I arrived at years ago, here you go:
So someone can be very formal but immature, and someone can be informal but very mature.
ONE IMPORTANT NUANCE:
The quote shouldn't be interpreted as “formality has nothing to do with maturity.” Sometimes maturity is expressed through appropriate formality.
Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
When I was between the age of 16 to 21, 90% of the girls of my age were dating men aged 28 to 39 years, some were even dating between 30 to 45 years.
I didn't complain. The girls claimed that these men are more mature and wiser than younger guys, even though personally I had...
When you realize that the reason some older women push so hard against men dating younger women is not necessarily because they genuinely want to “protect” these younger women, who, by the way, are grown adults and capable of making their own decisions, but because they see them as competition for the men they want, a lot of things start to make sense.
Imagine a woman in her 30s knowing that men in their 30s are generally the age group she expects to date, only to watch some of those men deliberately choose women between 18 and 25 instead. And you expect her to sit quietly and watch younger women take the men she considers part of her dating pool without feeling threatened by it?
Let’s stop pretending. It has nothing to do with protecting younger women. She simply doesn’t like the fact that younger women are getting the attention and access to men she wants. It is competition and self-interest dressed as genuine concerns and female solidarity.
Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
When you realize that the reason some older women push so hard against men dating younger women is not necessarily because they genuinely want to “protect” these younger women, who, by the way, are grown adults and capable of making their own decisions, but because they see them as competition for the men they want, a lot of things start to make sense.
Imagine a woman in her 30s knowing that men in their 30s are generally the age group she expects to date, only to watch some of those men deliberately choose women between 18 and 25 instead. And you expect her to sit quietly and watch younger women take the men she considers part of her dating pool without feeling threatened by it?
Let’s stop pretending. It has nothing to do with protecting younger women. She simply doesn’t like the fact that younger women are getting the attention and access to men she wants. It is competition and self-interest dressed as genuine concerns and female solidarity.
When I was between the age of 16 to 21, 90% of the girls of my age were dating men aged 28 to 39 years, some were even dating between 30 to 45 years.
I didn't complain. The girls claimed that these men are more mature and wiser than younger guys, even though personally I had...
When you realize that the reason some older women push so hard against men dating younger women is not necessarily because they genuinely want to “protect” these younger women, who, by the way, are grown adults and capable of making their own decisions, but because they see them as competition for the men they want, a lot of things start to make sense.
Imagine a woman in her 30s knowing that men in their 30s are generally the age group she expects to date, only to watch some of those men deliberately choose women between 18 and 25 instead. And you expect her to sit quietly and watch younger women take the men she considers part of her dating pool without feeling threatened by it?
Let’s stop pretending. It has nothing to do with protecting younger women. She simply doesn’t like the fact that younger women are getting the attention and access to men she wants. It is competition and self-interest dressed as genuine concerns and female solidarity.
This is not to say all girls that are 30+ played around with older men in their twenties...
But majority behaved that way, I am speaking generally.
If you're amongst the few that are the exception, then good for you, but you must realize that this is the general presumption.
And you expect me when I am 30 years to get married to another girl aged 30😂
As how na? What happened to the girls aged 18 to 23 years (scratching my head, asking the ladies close to me: "make it make sense?)
Youth often mistake information for wisdom, while old people often mistake experience for truth. Wisdom begins when you become humble enough to learn from both ~ Victor Chinedu Eric
Excellent strategy with some level of discipline beats exceptional discipline, all the time.
Especially in a short movie called LIFE.
I genuinely believe as a man, you can check a lot of boxes during your lifetime, all is vanity, I know. But even God will be proud of you.
— The developed spirit box✅
— The developed mind box✅
— The relationship and networking (people magnet)
box✅
— The formidable body box✅
If you are going to be too available, be very significant.
If you are going to be unavailable, be significant.
Being always available and insignificant is very bad.
But the worst that can happen is to be unavailable and insignificant ~ Victor Chinedu Eric.
But in all: Be significant. The world is in search of significant people.
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Let me start with a truth most people avoid:
You cannot live an exceptional life doing normal things.
Everyone wants rare results.
But lives a common life.
That contradiction is the problem.
You say you want freedom, wealth, impact.
But your actions?
Safe. Predictable. Approved by everyone.
You want to stand out,
but you’re afraid to stand out.
Here’s the rule:
Your life will always match your level of courage.
Not your wishes.
Your actions.
And exceptional actions come at a cost.
Let’s be honest.
They look strange at first:
— Studying when others relax
— Building when others complain
— Taking risks when others play safe
People call it foolish… until it works.
Then they call it “grace.”
If you choose the conventional path, expect conventional results.
No surprises there.
But understand this:
Everything exceptional was once unconventional.
The difference?
Someone had the courage to go first.
You don’t become exceptional by chance.
You become exceptional by choice.
Uncomfortable choices.
Unpopular choices.
Daily choices.
And you can’t live an unconventional life
while seeking approval from conventional people.
Choose one.
Faith matters.
But faith without action is dead.
Average actions build average lives.
Exceptional actions build exceptional lives.
Nobody drifts into greatness.
You decide it. Then you prove it.