I expect my husband to say yes to sex. Not every time, but most of the time. But for some reason because I'm a woman..that expectation is reasonable. But reverse it... if a man has an expectation that his wife says yes, most of the time that is seen as coercion and pressure. EXPECTING your spouse to do their best to be sexually available, regardless if it's the woman or the man shouldn't be seen as anything but NORMAL.