The reality of an ideal sunni marriage in the UK is something I should write about someday in Sha Allah. For now, let me just pen down a few observations of my own. When I first arrived the UK, I was looking for anything to do to get money, I was doing a few jobs through my marketing consultancy and also working with a Taiwan based company remotely, yet all the money was never going to be enough to pay my monthly bills, I had to pay about £8k balance in my school fees for my masters degree in AI and Data Science, and also had family to support back home, and I might become homeless if not careful. So I went into chicken factory to make extra money. On resuming at the factory, I saw a young lady on the line working there, she was serving chicken and hustling just like everyone else, but something caught my attention, she kept looking at me and smiling, I pretended as if I didn't notice until other people started noticing and asked if I knew her, then time came for a break, she invited me to her table and from there we started talking, she told me she was very happy to see me because she felt some sense of relief seeing someone who appears to be a Muslim like herself, then she told the bombshell, she had just removed her niqob, apparently she was in a similar financial mess like myself and she used to wear niqob before coming to the UK, then she came and realized she needed to support herself financially and had to do anything possible, so the niqob removal is one of the quick means for her to survive. This is not an uncommon scenario for many Muslims striving on the Deen, the moment you arrive the UK and realize you needed to compromise some huge part of your Deen, the experience becomes devastating, and the worst part is, this situation never gets better, especially as a family, your Deen and uprightness begins to deteriorate gradually, the values you have instilled in your wife and children begins to wash away, some people loose it completely even up to daily solawat, because here, a job and source of income is not just a necessity it is a means to keep your visa and finish whatever you are here for, so you might need to treat it as your new God. If the environment requires you to forgo your values, religious commitments or spirituality you might not becable to think about it twice. And for many women, it is harder to find themselves and values back once they get lost in this circle, I wouldn't say women are quick to loose their uprightness more than men, but what I have observed is how many women tend to always seems to enjoy it more than men, if had the chance, a lot of men would have returned back to their countries, but the refusal is always more from the women, as I have seen many often say the deterioration in spirituality is often worth it as far as it makes the future of their children better, you will often see many throwing all caution to the winds trying to buy this, investing in that, and putting children in the best UK schools. For an upright man, he might want to evaluate consequences and possibly not want to move so fast into the deterioration, but it becomes often too late because he can't make the decision alone, the wife is also now a decision maker unless he might find himself in trouble. This is just an example of a scenario, I have many more to share in Sha Allah. I know a Muslim brother we pray together that returned his wife and children to Ghana and withdrew their passports. I know of another who told me he has destroyed his own life because he stands the chance of losing his four children and wife forever if he ever try to return home, and he has up to three houses built in Nigeria already, yet he lives as a slave under the control of the wife. I know a man who has ended up In jail because he was a Muslim and couldn't bare to see his teenage daughter have a boyfriend,