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The perfect month to start this is about to begin. #FLR

The Sacrifices Submissive Men Make... Lets talk about the sacrifices submissive men make to love, honor, serve and obey their Mistresses. I think this is not given enough attention, or credit and it is well deserved. Submissive men are men who are not only willing to serve a woman, but they also will do whatever it takes to serve a woman. There are men that will go out of their way, to clean a house for a Domme they have never met, simply because she posts about needing someone online. Submissive men get nothing out of this exchange, yet they will sacrifice their time, energy and effort, and often money, to show up and clean a house as a way of serving a woman and making her happy. The entire findom community has men sacrificing money as well as many other things, in various ways, all because of their desire for female attention, and their need to submit to a woman. Submissive men give so much to please a woman, that they will even endanger their own financial well being as a result. Once in a FLR, it can get pretty intense very quickly when she starts taking control on different levels. Submissive men have to have the ability to completely let go of things going on in their lives. Some Dommes will allow them to keep a social life, or hobbies, or alone time, or time for sports, gym, video games, etc. But she doesn't have to! A Domme that knows how much power she truly wields knows that he is completely hers to customize, and he will have to make all the necessary sacrifices for her. If she doesn't want him watching the game, he has to sacrifice it for her, and accept it. Each time he sacrifices something for her, he slips even further into her control. She can even customize what he eats or if he drinks alcohol, or smokes. He must sacrifice anything she requires of him if she chooses to forbid certain things. Including what he wears, plenty of submissive men have had to sacrifice their male boxers and are only allowed to wear panties. While that may be exciting, there are often times where he might want to feel boxers again, but its sacrificed, for her, forever, or until she says otherwise. The same thing applies to chastity, and orgasms. Submissive men want orgasms. They may claim they don't but the truth is, they really do. They just want to have her permission to have one. Without her permission, it's just not the same. Since she has complete control over his sex life, orgasms are no longer his to take. They're sacrificed. This is why it's incredible when a Domme decides to lock her submissive up in permanent chastity. It's such a huge sacrifice for her, especially if she makes him pussy free as well, because it's something he really really wants, but can no longer have. Every sacrifice is worth it to him, because it's what she wants. His submissive nature will always be obedient to her needs and wants, and sacrifice comes with that. It's not something submissive men regret doing, and they would do it again in a heartbeat. Submissive men need to serve, so sacrifice is a normal part of this, and every Domme should recognize the sacrifice he is making, and even point it out to him and thank him for making it for her. Submissive men generally love to feel appreciated and recognized for what they do for her. The recognition coming from her makes him realize just how amazing she is and worth it every sacrifice is. Being a submissive male, is no easy task, and it's going to require a life on complete surrender and continual letting go. It's about being constantly teachable yet obedient and observant to the best ways to serve and please her. They understand that they are hers to mold, shape, and customize as she sees fit. That she knows best. It takes strength to be submissive for this reason, to give up control to another and sacrifice continually for her. Yet when they do, they discover that female happiness, means a happy life for him. Happy wife, happy life. She is the greatest drug he could ever take, and there's no better place than being in service to her. If you are a submissive male, and you're ready to find a woman for a FLR, you need to read my book to help you out. The Submissive's Journey was written for all submissive men to improve themselves enough so that women see the value in male submission. There would be a lot more FLR's in the world today, if submissive men understood how to show her the benefits, rather than the fetish. The fetish will follow, on her terms, in her way, at her pace, because that's what a FLR is. Invest in yourself. Go on The Submissive's Journey, this is your first sacrifice. Spending time, money, and effort on improving yourself for the woman that will make you hers. Are you not tired of endlessly scrolling? Are you not tired of not finding a dominant woman in real life? Is it not time for you to make a change, and start living your true purpose in submission to a woman? Don't wait another year. Buy the book! #FLR books2read.com/b/The-Submiss…

His tongue is hers to use, whenever, and however she wishes, at all times. #FLR

The Submissive Urge... The truth is, the desire to submit is far greater than the desire to conquer or take pleasure. Some submissive men are lost in fantasy and may not yet be able to admit this, but if they are being very honest with themselves, they would admit that their desire to submit is stronger than their sexual arousal. Any woman that figures this out and understands the truth in this, will bring him to his knees and put him into service to her. The desire for her dominance far outweighs the need for any sort of self-gratification. #FLR books2read.com/The-Submissiv…

One of the biggest benefits of a FLR is the sheer level of intimacy it allows. A woman that can enjoy the full benefits of male attention, without having to reciprocate if she doesn't want to. A submissive that can satisfy his curiosity and his desire to explore her body and express his affectionate care. A submissive gets to know every inch of her body, and she gives him the time he needs to really learn everything there is to learn about her. Just her feet alone, require a lot of learning. What kind of massage she likes, hard or soft. What her feet smell like after various daily activities. What lotions are best used, and what color she likes her toenail painted. He has much to learn, including how her feet feel with his tongue, between each toe and so on. There's nothing about her feet that he doesn't familiarize himself with. Just the intimacy alone, in the act of foot worship is something very special shared between them. It can become a ritual, and it's something she can ask for at any time. She can put her feet up, and he will focus entirely on her feet for as long as she wishes, it is the definition of " at her feet" it's where he belongs. Her feet are the most important part of her body to him because of their symbolism and power. That he is given the privilege to worship the lowest part of her body. In a FLR this is normal. It's a level of intimacy that most conventional relationships never explore. It breaks the awkward mental barriers, and enables both partners to get extremely comfortable with each other, to the point where all inhibitions vanish, and it's not weird for her to simply snap her fingers for him to lay on the floor and she puts her foot in his mouth simply because she wants to, and keep him there while she does something else. This is why submissive men are so lucky, because they have a woman in their life that's willing to open up in this way, and put him in his place. It's incredibly intimate, as well as erotic through the power exchange. It is the best of both worlds, and that's what a FLR thrives on. If you are a single submissive male, looking for a #FLR, my book can help you. It will never happen if you don't invest in yourself. books2read.com/The-Submissiv…

A #FLR really is something special. For both partners. Both are incredibly privileged. She is privileged to receive his submission to her. That he chose her to kneel before and dedicate himself to, and sacrifice for. To have his attention on command, and his loyalty that's never questioned. He is privileged to be her submissive, controlled by her dominance, given access to her body and pleasure. To worship, serve and obey her. To explore the mystery that is the feminine with her. It's beautiful for both. Learn more with my books! books2read.com/ap/n69lOw/JM-…

If you want to complain.... no problem. Who has complained already this #locktober? If you have.... guess what, it's locktober 1st again! #FLR books2read.com/b/The-Submiss…

The final week is always the hardest.... but also the best. #FLR books2read.com/b/The-Submiss…

There is something very calming in knowing he's securely locked away, it helps not just to sleep better, but to also relax fully into her femininity with him, and embrace her own desires without inhibitions. #FLR books2read.com/b/A-Womans-Gu…

It's better to keep him locked without mercy with surprise unlocks, than it is to have routine or timed release dates. Keeping him guessing will keep him on his toes and always obedient. Prevents him from getting lazy and expectant of a release. #FLR

Only those not in permanent chastity fear it. Those in permanent chastity fear being unlocked. Because once they get a taste of permanent chastity, they realize it's exactly how they belong. Don't be afraid of what will set you free. #FLR

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Appreciation goes both ways in a FLR. Too often subs thank their dommes but dommes don't thank their subs. There's many ways to show appreciation for him without unlocking him. Every sub in chastity wants to be unlocked. But that's for special occasions. Make him feel appreciated while locked just by being nicer, calling him a good boy, or even take him out for dinner. Make it romantic, intimate, fun or playful. Make him feel all the reasons why he is submissive to you in the first place. Your time and attention are things he craves. Your body maybe be his privilege, but when allowed, is also his playground. Make it sexy! There's so many ways to appreciate him, and at the end of the day, he still remained locked, more frustrated than ever, but most importantly, he feels loved, seen, and appreciated. It reminds him why he belongs to you. #FLR

This article is exclusive to my substack! Locktober has only one rule, no unlocking ( except for hygiene)! It’s a month designed to be without mercy. He stayed locked! Period. This means you have to be appreciative of how hard this journey will be for him. Especially if it’s his first Locktober, or he hasn’t done month long stints before. It’s very important to be sure that his body is used to the chastity cage before attempting Locktober. The cage should fit properly, and he should be able to sleep all night and handle nightly erections without discomfort. He should be able to go all day and carry out his daily activities without chafing or discomfort of the cage falling forward. A chastity strap can be helpful here. However, most importantly, he’s going to need support from you during Locktober. Chastity is an emotion enhancer, so he’s going to feel the ups and downs of life much more sensitively. So if he feels unappreciated or neglected, he feels it twice as hard. The same is true for when he does feel appreciate and seen. He feels that twice as hard too, which makes him realize just how much chastity is worth it, and how much more he appreciates you keeping him locked. Remember it’s not the chastity cage that’s on his mind 24/7, it’s you. He wants you far more than he wants to be unlocked. So the first thing you can do to appreciate him without unlocking him is simply expressing gratitude to him for staying locked for you. Tell him you understand the sacrifice he’s making and that you love knowing he’s locked. Let him know that he’s on your mind too. When he feels like his chastity has meaning and purpose beyond just being denied, it makes him feel purpose and belonging. The second thing you can do is cuddle! Make time to cuddle, curl up and watch a movie together. The closeness you share means a lot to him, especially being locked. Your leg over his is something he cherishes. It’s the little things that really matter when locked, and cuddling ranks extremely high on making him feel connected to you. The third thing you can do is spend time with him. Take him out for dinner or make him dinner. Bond with him over a meal, be flirty and tease, acknowledge that he’s locked. Not that he needs reminding, but the fact that you acknowledge it tells him you care and that it’s not just on his mind, but also yours. The fourth thing you can do is message him throughout the day. Make no mistake, he is always thinking about you. You are never off his mind. He wants to be messaging you every second of the day if he could, but he’s either busy with work, or doesn’t want to be annoying. So if you decide to message him it will light up his day and make him feel appreciated. To read the other 4 ways to appreciate him please subscribe to my Substack! practicalflr.substack.com/p/…

Once he can spend a full night in chastity, everything changes. It means he can now sleep caged. No more excuses. No more inconsistencies. No more doubts. It gives her peace of mind, and more control. It's a good milestone to reach in a #FLR.

When In Doubt .... Ruin Him! When a FLR is first starting out, it can take a bit of time to adjust to a sex life with a D/s dynamic. Both partners have their own unique struggles to go through, and so there's no need to rush anything. Whatever kinks you decide to partake in and make a part of your dynamic, I think it's safe to say the general theme in a FLR is tease and denial .... for him. I think the benefits of a well teased and denied sub speak for themselves. When he is constantly in craving, and aching, he is simply more attentive, and more obedient. It's like magic, almost. However, many Domme's often feel guilty when they don't give in and let him cum. His begging, and whimpering often is just too cute to not let him have it. So rather than feel guilty, let him have it... but with a condition. Ruin his orgasm. This can actually be a huge factor within the D/s dynamic, because ultimately she controls all his releases, and how he has them. Giving her the ultimate choice, each and every time. Especially if he's locked in chastity, and restrained when unlocked, so he never gets access to his own cock. All he knows is her touch, and only her touch. He's completely at her mercy. So when it's time for him to have a release, but she doesn't really want him to have a full orgasm, because she knows it drains all his passion from him. All that submission and obedience becomes dulled for a day or two until it builds back up... This is not ideal to happen regularly in a FLR. So a ruined orgasm, grants both, his release, and keeps his frustration levels high. He gets drained, but remains perfectly obedient. Win win! To ruin his orgasm, can be a bit of an art at first. She must learn the tell of his body as she stimulates him, and monitor his breathing. Recognizing when his breath quickens and his body starts to convulse, she can expertly time it. If she times it correctly, his cum will only, very slowly, dribble out of his penis. There should not be any spurts! If there's even a single spurt, it mean's he's getting pleasure from it. The idea of a ruined orgasm, is to give him a release, but not pleasure. She can then lose any guilt, because she knows he had a release. As long as he doesn't spurt, he will remain fully frustrated, as if he didn't cum at all. Which is hugely beneficial for her. So whenever she is in doubt, a ruined orgasm is the way to go. Bonus: The perfect way to train him to clean up his cum, is after ruined orgasms. He will still be submissive enough to lick it up without any hesitations. Create the #FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you!

Subs remember this important point. When she asks you to decide something, anything, make the decision. Don't reverse the power exchange happening. Don't reverse the question back to " well what would you like?" She asked you to decide. You're topping from the bottom. She wants you to decide. If she wanted to decide she wouldn't have given it to you. Understand that her decision is to let you decide. Most relationships don't understand this concept in the first place. Which is exactly why you're in a #FLR.

Be Strict! Dominance works best when she is strict about it. Being strict gives her a commanding presence. He can feel her attitude just by looking at her. When she is strict, everything she does is noticed by him, because everything she does matters. Her body language matters, her words matter, her attitude matters. Because he knows that she will enforce her rules if he doesn't pay attention. Being strict does not necessarily mean, being mean. She can be lovingly strict, and still have no mercy. The most wonderful thing in a FLR is that she never has to settle for less than she wants from him. this doesn't just apply to being sexual. It applies to domestic chores, errands, and the way he worships her. She gets to direct him on every level, and be strict about it. Body worship for example, can be done with her rules in place. He can only worship certain areas at a time. Perhaps she says feet only for a bit, then maybe it's massage only, hands only, tongue only.... She decides every aspect of the worship that takes place, and for how long. Domestic chores, are to be done to her standards. He must meet her expectations. The house should be as clean as she expects it to be. No half assing it, no sweeping things under the rug. She will check. As long as she is strict, he will strive to meet her expectations, or face the consequences. The consequences can take many shapes and forms. They can be having to re-do chores, or being assigned more chores. It doesn't have to be painful involving a pain or a whip, but that is also an option she can opt for, if she feels the need, and wants that type of training in her FLR. She can also be strict about his pleasure. She can take it away as she sees fit. Not allow him access to her pussy. One of the worst punishments for a submissive, is being denied access to her body. Not even allowed to see her naked. A couple of days of that, and he will be very sorry. He craves her, and being allowed access to her is something he will always strive for. So when she is strict, he knows the stakes, he knows what she may do, and it's just not worth it. Her attitude really sets the tone here. A no non-sense approach that says, you will submit to me, the way I want you to submit to me, or you will face severe consequences until you do. He will quickly start conforming to her rules and obeying her without any more hesitations. Her attitude, and strictness in this manner will arouse him, but also bring him deeper into obedience. Create the #FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you!

Keeping Him Aroused If you're into chastity in your FLR, then it's important to understand the psychological and physiological aspects the submissive goes through while locked. The first few days in chastity, are a slow build up phase, he becomes more and more sensual. After 3 days locked, he's going to be a cuddle bug. He doesn't necessarily want out of the cage yet. He's enjoying the chastity, and as each passing day goes by, her feminine beauty becomes more and more attractive. In other words, his desire to serve and worship her increases exponentially with each passing day. All he can think about is pleasing her and obeying her. This will last for about a week to 10 days. Around day 10 his frustration begins to kick into overdrive. He starts thinking more about when he will be released, so he will be on extra good behavior, but also perhaps becoming a little bit desperate, and may beg for a release. If no unlock occurs for teasing, over the next few days, his frustration will reach a peak. Around the 3 week period, and this can different for each person, without an unlock, and without release, his arousal will begin to wane. However, that doesn't mean he's less horny, it just simply means his body is adjusting to the cage. His night time erections will lessen and help him sleep better. There will be less leaking, and less straining in his cage, as his penis has accepted it's tiny prison. What's interesting however, is that this waning only occurs if he is locked and left denied, without her paying any attention to his penis. After about a month, he will reach a plateau, and he will find stability in this plateau, where the cage simply becomes a part of his body. When the cage gets removed after being locked for so long, he will feel strangely naked and vulnerable without it locked on. Which she can use to her full advantage, to tease him, and make him beg to be locked back up. It's always best to make his submission his idea through various domination techniques. Does he want to eat her out, or be unlocked? His choice will usually be to eat her out, because he knows it's what she wants. It's the confidence of dominance at work. However, once he reaches that plateau of being locked for 5 weeks, without an unlock or teasing, he will remain in a sensual state, and if he's into feminization, panties or girly clothes will help calm his frustration because it brings greater awareness to his entire body, rather than just his cage. This is beneficial because it keeps him focused on obedience, instead of release. However, he is not aching for release. His balls are not as blue as they could be. While it can be ideal for many FLR's to keep him on the plateau, some Dommes are more interested in keeping this subs at their most frustrated, at all times. Aching blue balls, and constantly desperate for a release from the cage. That's where regular teasing comes in. Teasing can take many forms, and I'm not going to go through in this article. But regularly edging him, every day or couple of days, will go a long way to keeping him very horny, and he will ache so much he will be willing to do anything for her. And agree to anything she might want him to agree to. Naturally, she could use this method of dominance for abuse. It's very easy to abuse a submissive man, because many of them won't speak out when they should. So this is where the Domme's responsibility is of paramount importance in maintaining trust and integrity in the FLR. A good Domme will always get what she wants, but she will also always make sure that her sub is comfortable with it first. If she does that correctly, he will be her's forever. Her submissive, her slave, her pet, her cuck, whatever it is she wants him to be. He will love her for it. Most importantly, he will ache for her, 24/7, since she understands his psychology so well, that she can keep his body and mind, desiring and obeying her without mercy. He learns the definition of true submission. Create the #FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you!

The Power of Women "When she honors the masculine within him, it can transform boys into men very quickly. More importantly, she can transform them into men that she wants in her life. Men she can trust. Men who listen to her. Men who serve her." #FLR