Media: Kids with gay dads do great! Actual kids with a #gayfather: "When I was going through puberty, that I found some of Dad’s books showing explicit pictures of men with other men. I was sickened by the images. Although I never told him, it bothered me when, as a sign of affection, my father would put his hand on my butt instead of my back or shoulder. I didn’t feel molested or anything, but it made me uncomfortable, especially as I got older. I eventually tried to position myself so that I was always facing him, so that he couldn’t do that again. When I had problems with the opposite sex, my father was no help, which he admitted to me... For the most part, I only had to deal with one of my father’s partners. I’ll call him Eric. Dad was adamant that everyone just had to accept that he and Eric were together whether we liked it or not. I get along okay with Eric, but I’ve never looked at him as a stepparent, like my father wanted. Unlike some stories I’ve heard, Dad and Eric weren’t sexual in front of me, though they would kiss and show other signs of affection. I tried to avert my gaze when they were like that. I would hear Dad saying to people, “Oh, they’re just like brothers!” When he said that, it made me feel used, like he wanted me to be the poster child for gay couples with kids. He wanted me to be close to Eric, but wanting didn’t make it so. I keep seeing articles stating that children with gay parents do just as well, if not better, than children with straight parents. Where are they getting their information? Have they interviewed any adult children with gay parents who can think for themselves and are no longer living with their parents?"

"As a child of #divorce, [@ThemBeforeUs] put words to feelings I’ve carried for years. The guilt of spending Christmas with one side of the family and not the other. Always missing someone, because your whole family is never in the same room. Moving between two homes and somehow never feeling like you had a home at all. Growing up, it felt like every couple around me was splitting up. I honestly never thought I’d get married. Why would I?" kaseysetka.substack.com/p/th…