Project Parenthood

When you strive for perfection as a parent, you’re setting yourself up to be repeatedly disappointed in yourself—because you can’t be perfect. You’re a fallible human being. That means you’re definitely going to make mistakes, and do or say things you wish you could take back.

Repair your relationship with your child by taking accountability, apologizing, and conveying with your words or actions that the bond between you and your child is unshakeable, even when they (or you) “mess up.”

Refilling a child's cup looks like tuning into and meeting their unmet needs. Refills are the validation of their upset at having to go without a need being met and making plans with them about meeting that need in the future.

Respectful discipline takes the focus off behaviors & puts focus on internal struggles. You preserve your child’s dignity even as you stand firm on boundaries. It's about letting go of what you can’t control (your child) and holding onto what you can control (yourself!).

You won’t always be the bigger one with more power. That’s why a strongly-connected relationship with your child is a more sustainable parenting tool. You’ll have an easier time helping them get safely to adulthood.

Bribing or using rewards to coerce your child into compliance with your rules is tricky; they will often coerce you in return, refusing to comply unless given the reward. So how do you respond when your child breaks rules or flat-out refuses to do what you’ve asked?

Using tactics like yelling, threatening, shaming, time outs, and "consequences" to get your way doesn’t teach kids to identify & express their feelings/needs. Instead, it teaches them to use their size, strength, and power to get what they want. #respectfulparenting

In this week's episode, I provide some tips for helping your child learn to contribute to the upkeep of the family home. project-parenthood.simplecas…

In today’s episode, I’m talking about tips to make limit setting with kids easier. Stick around till the end to hear about how to evaluate the effectiveness of your limit setting and boundary holding. project-parenthood.simplecas…

It’s challenging to see your child frustrated, angry, or having trouble, so it makes sense that you feel the urge to help them when they’re struggling. At the same time, having you jump in to solve their problems isn’t always what your child needs. project-parenthood.simplecas…

You don't need to suppress your needs in your relationship with your child. project-parenthood.simplecas…

Just when you thought you got age six under your belt—your child is turning seven! What can a caregiver expect from a child this age? project-parenthood.simplecas…

What to expect when you're raising a seven-year-old. project-parenthood.simplecas…

We're adding a new face to the Quick and Dirty Tips family tomorrow, if you love fitness, subscribe to Get-Fit Guy with new host Kevin Don. pod.link/getfitguy

Today I have 7 steps to take that can help you build confidence and self-esteem as a parent. project-parenthood.simplecas…

If your child is the type who seems to worry about everything, here are some tips for understanding your child's anxiety. project-parenthood.simplecas…

Siblings under the age of 7 can get into conflicts just like older siblings can, but it can feel more challenging to help them through squabbles when one or more of the siblings you’re raising is too young to use language to talk things through! project-parenthood.simplecas…

Catch my episode on gender-affirming parenting on @QDTSavvyPsych! savvy-psychologist.simplecas…

Instead of adding to teen's distress by pushing their feelings away, radically accept their feelings. Reflect back to them your understanding in your own words. This helps them make sense of their emotions, figure out solutions, accept their reality and move forward.

Really enjoying this new Relationship Doctor mini-series from QDT! pod.link/relationshipdoctor