Robbens ⚽️

Girlfriend: "My mom needs our apartment for a week." Me: "We have $1,400 rent, 1 bedroom. Where do I sleep?" Her: "Stay with your brother. My mom paid $400 flight." Me: "My brother is 40 mins away. I work at 7am. I pay half rent." Her: "Don't be difficult. It's just a week." I said okay, 3 days MAX. Get it in writing. Next day mom arrives: "I'm staying a month. My lease ended." Me: "You said a week." Her: "I didn't know she needed a month, we can't put her out." A week later electric bill is $280. Double. I said "Let's check what you first told me." Her: "What does the first conversation have to do with the bill?"

My brother finally tried for her. He tried once. It worked. As I write this, my mom will be traveling abroad in December. She will stay 6 months. Easy for everybody until it gets to my turn. Same thing my brother tried and tried for me that didn't work, worked for my mom on first try. At this point I totally believe my friend. I have to leave home. But how do I just leave when there is no opportunity to jump into? My friend said, "Just go wherever you want with your small savings. The rest will follow." That feels dangerous. At my age, I can't jump without a safety net. Life has stalled long enough. I don't want to make it worse. He said, "That thought is also the reason you are where you are. If you don't risk it, forget it." This friend wants to help. He is in Accra. Says he will share his space until I can move out. He has a wife and kids. Going to live with him to start afresh looks scary and uncomfortable. I want to know. Is my case different or is that how it is for everyone? Your siblings get everything easily until it gets to your turn. I need answers before it's too late for me.

We all win inshaallah 🙏

My girlfriend and I live and work in different cities. We've been together for some time. I love her so much that I planned to get engaged this December. And marry her next year. Like any couple, we've had disagreements and fights. But we always came out stronger. I used to feel very confident about us. Recently things changed. She moved to a new place and became friends with a guy in that area. She has had male friends before. It never bothered me. But this one makes me uneasy. It started with him helping her buy porridge flour. Then because her house often has power problems, she started charging her phone at his place. Over time they grew quite close. So close she sometimes leaves me out of important updates. Whenever I bring up my concerns, she brushes off my feelings. I try to explain gently. It still ends in argument. She keeps defending him. Says the guy has a girlfriend. But I've been through this before. Two girlfriends betrayed me after these "harmless friendships." I know how it starts innocent and takes a different turn. I told her, as a guy, I understand how other guys think…. …