#1 Kriselle Fan

I bang on about this a lot, but most of the sexual dysfunction in the West comes down to the fact that eroticism has been so purged from public life that no one even knows what it means anymore. Eroticism isn’t “when sex”. It’s specifically the exploration of INTIMATE DESIRE. How does it affect you? How are you changed by it? How does it transform the body and mind? How does it move a relationship from one kind to another? BDSM is erotic in that it explores this question in regards to power and trust. Camp is erotic in that it explores it via identity and performance. Tactility is key to this. You want to touch, to take in, to let go, to claim, to change and be changed. Virtually nothing in mainstream Western media is erotic anymore. It doesn’t explore or play with desire and change at all. Desire, when it appears, is a fixed transactional quantity. Sex, when shown is clinical, boring, on par with an enema. Porn will sometimes pretend to show eroticism but usually just show abuse and nonconsent as pale, twisted imitations of actual erotic acts. Nothing is tactile. Everything is dead eyed and frictionless. Desire isn’t a beautiful transformative force to cultivate. It’s a lack. A deficit. A hole. Consume. Fulfill. Repeat. This is the dark matter of a lot of sexuality discourse and no one ever addresses it. There is more eroticism in any 5 minutes of Twilight Princess or Hyrule Warriors than in all of Euphoria and PornHub put together. This should be more widely discussed.