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We are so dishonest on this app. A Nigerian man in his 30s is married to a girl in her early 20s who, according to him, is currently pursuing her master's degree. The said man is online but has banned his wife from being on X, Facebook and TikTok. He has instructed her not to be here. Men are cheering him on for MANNING HIS HOUSE. Do you understand what it means for a fully grown adult woman, who has gone through the four walls of a university and is currently pursuing her master's degree, to get married to a man who then decides that she is no longer sensible enough to distinguish good from evil? This same man can be on these platforms, where people like Andrew Tate and others exist, and somehow has the discernment to decide what is good for him to consume, what to learn from and what to ignore. But the woman he has married? Apparently, she lacks that same ability. She is only book-smart and home-smart. She is suddenly a child who cannot navigate the world without her husband's supervision and authorization. So, what does he do as the head of the house? He bans her from three or four major social media platforms, presumably because he has appointed himself her guardian angel, responsible for shielding her from the toxicity of the internet. Do you understand the contradiction?🤷 A man who celebrates his wife's intelligence when it suits him suddenly considers her incapable of exercising independent judgment when it comes to her own exposure to the world. The same world that she was dealing with before meeting him. And somehow, people do not see the intent behind this action. They do not see how it infantilises a grown, educated woman. They do not see how it strips her of the autonomy to make decisions for herself. They do not see how control is being packaged and celebrated as responsible husbandhood. Nobody is arguing that social media is harmless. Nobody is saying people should not make decisions about what they consume or the platforms they use. But there is a fundamental difference between a grown woman deciding what is healthy for her and a grown man deciding that his wife is incapable of making that decision for herself. You cannot celebrate a woman's education, intelligence and accomplishments and then expect her to surrender her critical thinking and personal autonomy at the entrance of marriage. And somehow, in all of this, supposedly educated men do not see the problem in the big year 2026 of our Lord Jesus. God will judge all of you who pretend not to understand what we are talking about when we discuss these things.