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“It’s just my word against theirs.”
We hear that from survivors all the time. But many people underestimate what can serve as evidence.
Texts. Emails. DMs. Photos. Calendar entries. An old journal. Changes in behavior others witnessed. Pieces of the story often exist in places you might not expect.
Before you delete anything, talk with someone who understands how these cases are investigated. The evidence you think doesn’t exist may be closer than you realize.
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Replying to @collateral_360
Not only that, when brave 50+ yr foreign missionaries confronted @Ethnos360 leadership regarding ongoing coverups of Child Sex Abuse within E360, they were told to be quiet.
They refused to remain silent, so threats were made and they were forced out of the Organization.
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Perpetrators of abuse may seek out positions of leadership inside faith institutions as a means of both personal power and self-protection. Respect, title, and perceived closeness to God can all be leveraged to make the perpetrator's story seem more believable and the victim's less credible.
#spiritualabuse #GRACE #abuseawareness #churchharm
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Let me be clear: To out a predator publicly IS NOT GOSSIP. It's justice. It's protecting more people from being harmed. Brave disclosure is the very essence of God whose heart ALWAYS bends to the vulnerable. To not speak up is sin. Let’s flip the narrative, folks.
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A Michigan woman is suing Christian mission group Ethnos360, alleging she was repeatedly raped and abused by one of its missionaries while living in Indonesia. Kayla McClain claims the abuse began when she was five and is seeking over $50,000 in damages.
julieroys.com/michigan-woman…
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Abuse isn’t just the act—it’s the cover-up, deflection, and self-preservation that follow. A leader who hid abuse for 20 years spent 20 years perfecting deception.
Similarly, abuse isn’t a moment; it’s a culture. When the system protects abusers, it’s protecting its own nature.
#churchtoo #ihopkc #lineoffire #michaelbrown
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Systemic abuse occurs when a system, such as a family, a government entity, a school, a church or religious organization, a political group, or a social service organization, enables the abuse of the people it purports to protect.
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I'm in awe of these survivors who've worked for years to get this investigation. Their courage, grit, & determination leave me speechless. May missionary abusers & the mission orgs who protect them face a true reckoning. May justice flow! #MissionsToo
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We are more likely to accept as truth those claims that are supported by our social network. When the first allegations against former physician Larry Nassar were emerging, most parents and gymnasts under his care continued to believe that he was being unjustly accused.
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"This approach to “forgiveness” — one that protects predators in power but sacrifices the victims — is not owing solely to bad decisions by individuals but is perpetrated and cultivated by institutions and networks of power and influence."
Settling is more important than keeping students safe from alleged sexual predators. Indeed, it’s increasingly difficult to deny that this is simply business as usual for too many Christian institutions. religionnews.com/2024/10/04/…
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This is striking. The @Ethnos360 CEO was just saying the quiet part out loud.
It's indicative of a deformed mindset common to many Christian leaders who mishandle abuse.
Whatever they deem sufficient & difficult must be competent & satisfy justice to any reasonable person.
After Florida officials released “verified findings of child on child sexual abuse”, the victim’s parents requested that the mission agency look more closely into the matter and were reportedly told by the Ethnos360 CEO to simply “leave things between God and others because it would be hard on everyone to re-do everything.” nbcnews.com/news/us-news/chr…
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When you feel discouraged, remember:
Speaking truth is an act of justice, all by itself.
Not the full measure—I know that. But it's a really good start.
And who knows? Maybe it'll land somewhere. Maybe it'll wind up planted, and watered. Maybe it'll bear fruit and grow. Seeds are like that sometimes. You just never know.
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Myth: The presence of good deeds, kind words, and a good reputation means a person could not possibly be an abuser. Truth: An abuser often cultivates such things for the purpose of deception.
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Systems that cover up abuse through deception, coercion, or abuse of power, mimic the perpetrator and re victimize the victim. Tragically, many lives have been sacrificed on the altar of secrecy for the sake of the church or the mission.
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So grateful that @judylthomas included my and others' concerns about how @TeliosLaw handled a recent investigation into @maf_us and other organizations' investigations in her latest reporting on #ihopkc. @LuhmannAudrey @ACNAtoo #MAFtoo
A law firm hired by the International House of Prayer-Kansas City to examine how it handled sexual misconduct allegations faces criticism that its founder has been a defense attorney for ministries and won’t conduct an impartial investigation.
kansascity.com/news/local/ar…
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We stand with @reb_hopkins & so many others, including adult MKs in our community, who have experienced harm & trauma when they participated in "investigations" by Telios Law. Law firms shouldn't be the go-to orgs for trauma-informed, victim-centered, independent investigations.
It's time for me to speak up about my concerns with @TeliosLaw and @MAF_us. Before I started working as a journalist for @reachjulieroys and @CTmagazine, my pilot husband and I served for 14 years in Indonesia. We left in 2019 with concerns.
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I am rewatching The Secrets of Hillsong on @Hulu, and it’s been difficult, particularly as I process the system I left last year. I’m beginning to think there is a bad-actor playbook for some of these abusive ministries. Some observations:
Protect the institution. At any cost, including sacrificing the wellbeing of those the institution have spit out.
Villainize whistleblowers and/or victims. Encourage those still within the institution to harass, confront, or minimize any dissenters.
Destabilize any structures of accountability for the head leader.
Use growth or numbers as proof of “God’s blessing” of your ministry.
Create an atmosphere of fear where speaking up or asking questions is met with shame, ridicule, or demeaning abuse.
Create a martyr narrative that they must be doing God’s work because there is opposition, which they call demonic.
Chase the 99 (big numbers) and disdain the 1 (it’s okay to run over people; besides they need the parking spot).
Collateral damage is justified, leaving hundreds of brokenhearted, disillusioned run-over members. But who cares because these are just disgruntled naysayers.
Any of those close to the structure and who are forced to leave must sign an NDA, tied to compensation.
Encourage two standards, one for the leader (lots of grace), and another for the rest (little grace for questions, mistakes).
Create a culture of privileged insiders (often big donors or famous people) who have access to the main leader. Very few “normal” congregants are directly shepherded.
Make it nearly impossible to lodge a complaint. Elders are unknown, unrevealed, and secretive.
Pursue big donors without financial transparency.
Friends, none of this represents the humble way of Jesus. None of this demonstrates the heart of a shepherd. A church is not a business. Pastors are not CEOs or celebrities.
I can’t help but think the Lord is cleaning his house, and will continue to do so when we cling to secrecy, money, fame, and glory.
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When an abusive organization can no longer control those who are exposing their abuses, they will turn their attention to controlling public perception of the whistleblowers, suggesting they lack credibility, are motivated by hate, and are alone in their concerns.
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Diane Langberg is a psychologist and trauma scholar. Read Langberg's full article here - buff.ly/3lzPDnT



















