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the difference between a girl and a woman, in terms of psychology is found in their ability to listen and communicate a woman who is still a girl inside her mind cannot do either of those things, because she operates purely as reactive - such women cannot hear what I say, no matter how many times I spell it out, as their egos are fragile and they operate from a constant state of selfishness and self-appeasement, the world as she sees it is only relative to her and thus she is never able to see anything for what it is - when trying to explain something to such a woman, she won’t comprehend it, because she will think it according to her own child-mind - she will be ungrounded, her attachments and impulses can change on a daily basis, because her self is incoherent without any true objective sense of reality and she will also be utterly unable to communicate, because communication will feel like vulnerability to her, as again she only understands her own inner world, she has no coherent tether to reality, and thus in communicating, that inner world becomes exposed as fragile (because it is ungrounded), so communication itself becomes a danger to her infantile mind that is afraid of change and clings to its own fragility, not realizing that the fragility of her mind is the exact thing that keeps her stuck and from being able to develop psychologically many people talk of ‘peter pan syndrome’, but ‘little girl disorder’ is far more prevalent and widespread throughout women in society - any woman that is unable to take accountability, communicate, or listen, suffers from this disorder to varying degrees - on the other hand what makes the difference of when a woman actually becomes a woman psychologically, is that she breaks the shell inside her mind and becomes tether to reality - we can imagine the shell in her mind like a womb or an egg that a girl stays inside, it represents the infantile that has not yet emerged into adulthood so on the contrary when women have fully become women and are grounded in reality, that is when they truly flourish and hone their intuition and feminine instinct for women by nature are greater listeners, greater communicators, and much more empathetic than me, as those are all the natural traits that healthy motherhood entail so the woman who has emerged and tethered herself in reality becomes the opposite of the little girl disorder - she listens deeply and understands things that people don’t even mention, she is a proactive communicator who communicates first rather than being scared, and her empathy becomes so deep that she can feel the state of other people that is what any healthy individuated woman becomes and the truth of the matter is simply that most women are coddled and stuck in little girl disorder, because they’ve never had healthy maternal role models or real men in their life teach them how to individuate and become a woman, thus they remain stuck in the infantile coddled state, many so for the entirety of their lives even but the few who learn how to truly become women, they are the ones who achieve great things, become powerful mothers with strong families, and societal feminine role models because it is rare to see a woman fully be a woman nowadays like a unicorn, we hardly know if real women exist anymore, or if it’s just a fairytale that we’ve read in books