Being a stepfather is a thankless job. Every woman will naturally chose her child(ren) first, and woe to you as a man when you aren't the biological father of that child. No matter how much you do to a woman you marry as a single mother, she would always remind you that she never forced you to marry her. And more than often, those kids would also grow up to despise and disrespect you. They will remind you that you may be their mother's husband but you aren't their father. If you aren't a single father yourself, it is an effort in futility if you choose a single mother as your very first option. Má ṣe àṣe dànù. A normal football game doesn't start with a scoreline of 1-0. But you know what, "had I known" is always the last words of a fool. A dog that would be lost in the evil forest will not heed the whistling of the hunter. You will learn. 🚶🚶🚶