Random internet manager here 👋🏽 I have so many thoughts here and if you don’t know me, I’m known for building psychologically safe and efficient teams. Some of my favorite compliments I’ve received about my management are: 1- “your team would run through brick walls for you”. 2- “your team doesn’t play about you, even when you’re not around” 3- many of my engineers saying they’d following me “anywhere” I know it’s not common but I LOVE trying to be the best manager I can be to each person on my team. However, I understand that mode of thinking isn’t for everyone. But no matter what your mindset is on management, I truly believe a few ways of working will help you build an effective and stable team that’s built to last. First, the quoted post is right. Some managers intentionally don’t grow engineers to keep the team “stable”. But if an engineer feels they don’t have room to grow and/or are unhappy, they’re not going to do their best work. Potentially creating a drag on the team until they finally find their exit. If you have motivated people, do your best to align them with what makes them tick and let them soar. Quality people will always be able to leave, help them see the value in staying. And when it does come time for them to leave, don’t take it personal. It’s a job 💜 Second, if onboarding people is a grueling task, dig into why. Yes, people take time to get organizational context, but are there other onboarding changes you could make to make things more smooth? Outdated documentation? Breaking down knowledge siloes? Engineers who don’t want to help their team? Whatever it is, lessen the impact of the onboarding drag. Third, great employees are hard to find. If you find a few, do you really want to lose them because you’re scared they’ll leave? IMHO, I prefer to give these phenomenal employees a work environment that’s hard to find elsewhere. Giving a crap puts you ahead of majority of managers. Fourth, I want to acknowledge that the industry is in a tight spot right now. If you lose someone, you may not get the backfill. Which can feel scary when the workload isn’t decreasing. But even with the potential of losing the headcount, I still stand by the fact that limiting your people’s growth isn’t the fix here. If anything, managers should lean into coaching and aligning their people with high impact work in case the team’s value ever comes into question. Lastly, remember that your best people can always leave. If they’re good enough, there’s likely always another company that wants them. Refusing to nurture their career will only expedite their exit. My approach is to make sure they enjoy their time under my management so I can slowly but surely build my “forever team” of people I’d hire anywhere I work.

I know Love Is Blind is no stranger to weirdos, but this bunch feels like a special blend of strange.

Sending love to all the folks working through these PHP vulnerabilities. I hope today is a bit easier and you're able to do something you love doing this weekend.

Last night I was getting my bi-weekly massage when my massage therapist educated me on the fact that roaches like to live in coffee makers. It's obviously not a problem in my home, but I immediately flashed to all the places I've had a cup of joe 😂 I've also been playing with the idea of getting a nice espresso machine off FB Marketplace. That idea is completely dead.

This morning I realized people have complimented me my entire life on how good I am with money. I’ve never questioned it, but I think my family doing that made me assume this trait as part of who I am. Which in turn made me want to be even better at handling money. A self fulfilling prophecy.

Another house hunting pro tip

The prices aren't coming down, but folks I know are having success with approaching home owners who have had their home on the market for a few weeks. If you find an seller in the right situation, you can negotiate a lower price and/or seller credits.

I’ve been with Comcast for 17 years and have heard a solid amount of criticism around their internet and/or customer service. As we setup Verizon in our home, I’m here to say they don’t get enough hate.

Rye Old Fashioned in hand, body freshly bathed, prepping for the week ahead.

My phone updated to the new iOS last night. I used it for about one hour before the screen went black and refused to turn back on beyond random haptic responses. It eventually responded to my reboot and is functioning fine, but lets see how long this thing lasts.

We just purchased an older home and our utility room is absolutely terrifying. To help us, I've been trying to find videos of people tackling equally chaotic rooms, but everything I find is someone describing their room how we describe ours but with 25% the amount of chaos. Wish us good fortune! lol

Given all the buzz around Yesteryear, I thought I’d love the book but I didn’t. I would sum it up as “fine”.

I’ve still consistently been able to take on stretch projects that are slowly building me into the future Director of Engineering that I want to be.

TIL some colleges are having Computer Science majors learn a programming language called Dr. Racket. I had never heard of this language until a recent interview lol

There are so many sick people on this plane and I’m beyond grateful hubby and I are masked down. There’s too much going on in life for us to become sick 🥲