Imagine being married to a man who would rather see you struggle than succeed because he is afraid you might become more successful than him. Is that love or well calculated to always be in charge A few days ago, I got talking with a childhood friend she categorically told me what really got me thinking. She said, “I honestly don’t understand the benefits of being married to her husband. When I looked at her, I could see the pain and regret in her eyes, so I asked her what had happened. She told me that a friend had informed her that their company would soon be recruiting and encouraged her to apply. However, the job required two referees who are civil servants at Grade Level 14 or above. She had already secured one referee. For the second, she asked her husband to help her contact his cousin, a medical doctor working at one of the institutions. Instead of helping her, the husband asked why she wanted to leave her current job. She explained that her salary could no longer cover her bills and that she wanted a better-paying job that would improve her financial situation. Guess what the husband said to her He accused her of wanting a higher paying job so she could become richer than him, she said the husband told her she’s a very greedy woman that would never happen under his watch. Honestly, sometimes the enemy within is not a stranger. Sometimes, it is the very person you call your partner.