i think i confuse people. confident then not. healing and hurting at the same time.
the unedited version lives here:
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kindness isn't flirting.
attention isn't love.
silence isn't anger.
tears aren't weakness.
bookmark it.
the avoidant cycle: hopeful → panic → slow replies → finding problems → sabotage → leave → come back.
which style are you?
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New GotIt episode is live: maybe the most honest conversation two men have had on a podcast.
Ted Riter, 20 years a rabbi, now an intimacy coach. Vulnerability, trust after betrayal, and why men don't say it out loud.
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turning 39 on november 23rd and spending it in vegas with 20 people from this community. honestly can't think of a better way to start a new year.
my biggest fear isn't spiders. it's time.
the life that looks good on paper, and still that pit when someone says her name.
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Ted Riter: a healthy relationship argues to get to know each other, not to win.
You can win the argument and still lose the person.
Full episode tomorrow: patrickgotit.com
“good people never win.”
“that's because good people aren't in it to win.”
best reply i've read in a while. agree?
7 signs you're the avoidant one: you sabotage it when it gets real, pull back when they get close, keep an exit open.
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I didn't ask a friend for help because I didn't want to bother him.
He said: "That is not up to you to decide. That's up to me to decide."
Ted Riter: don't make decisions for other people.
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you don't want them back. you want one conversation to explain what they did to you.
that's the overthinking loop. i wrote the way out: amazon.com/dp/B0C4HVNDTF
slower replies, irritated by small things, you starting every conversation.
that's an overwhelmed avoidant, not a disinterested one. still not a reason to stay stuck.
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"How are you feeling?" "Fine." "Really?" "Fine."
Ted Riter: most men aren't hiding. They were never taught to know what they feel. Nobody told them it was okay.
Send this to the one who always says fine.
reason 76 not to date me: i'm gonna hold your face every time i kiss you.
i post the parts most people edit out.
you feel like somewhere i can exhale without explaining myself.
you're my home. without you i'm homesick.
"Too much for whom?" Ted Riter asked me.
If you're too much for someone, it's the wrong person. Or they're not ready for you yet.
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This Friday on GotIt: 20 years as a rabbi, the guy everybody leaned on, until he admitted the man inside didn't match the one everyone saw.
Ted Riter now teaches men how to actually feel.
Friday 9 AM ET: patrickgotit.com
i look at you and see a stranger where i used to see a soulmate.
nobody warns you about that part. bookmark this one
