Daisy

Up until relatively recently, it was common for Cafcass to tell mothers who had reported rape or serious sexual abuse to “have a coffee” with the perpetrator and try to sort things out for the sake of the children. Their opinion was that contact should still happen, and that the mother should facilitate it, even in cases involving the most serious violence. I have not heard this exact advice as frequently in recent years. I don’t know whether it has genuinely stopped, or whether it has simply become less openly stated. If you have been told by Cafcass (or anyone else in the family court process) to meet, mediate, or “sort things out” with a man who raped you, or who has seriously abused you or your children, please share your experience below. This is the pro-contact culture in its most extreme form. It treats a mother’s safety, and the truth of what was done to her, as secondary to the goal of contact. 📕The System Is The Weapon - How Abusive Fathers Exploit Family Courts Against Mothers and Children: amzn.eu/d/07QJVNlL