Be the parent that has the slowest heartbeat, the most relaxed body, the emptiest mind. Be this so you can coregulate your children. Our eldest son had a very complex day at school yesterday. Let’s leave it at that. Big feelings, big lessons learned, big conversations. He was completely overwhelmed when we picked him up. Tears and all. But because we have redesigned our life for the last 8 years around present parenting, flexible remote work schedules, and intentional slowness, we were able to take him for a walk in the forest, listen to everything that happened in the day, and connect in the way he needed us to be there for him. Yesterday was a massive moment for the growth and development of his character and it was essential that we were there as his parents, in a nonstressed state. I haven’t been able to stop thinking “what would happen if @franziskagonder and I both worked corporate jobs and could never be there when our kids need us for this?” And then I remember that this is a big part of why so many adults turn out the way they do.