Emmanuel MD. 🩺

I will weigh in on this conversation as someone who lived in the uk 🇬🇧 before moving to Canada 🇨🇦, I had male colleagues at work who will show up with freshly made food cooked by their wives yet they don’t know how to boil water, infact some of them work the same hours or even lesser hours than their wives, the problem I have with Nigerian 🇳🇬 men is not women not wanting to spilt it’s the fact that you want a working woman to still do unpaid labour for you without lifting a finger to help out in other department that’s exactly what this women are avoiding, as a man living abroad don’t marry a woman that will not help you financially because you’ll just kpai of bills via hypertension but at the same time don’t come abroad with men don’t enter kitchen mentality, there are days I come back from work and I’ll feel like fainting I go just chop bread sleep I don’t want to come back like that and someone expects me to cook Egusi because the same Nigerian men will date “oyibo” that eats take out everyday and be okay with it, but once it’s a Nigerian woman you want her to do 9 to 5, cook, clean, get pregnant give birth do school runs and still split 50/50 then if you see her she’ll be looking like a mad woman that’s unfair and I’m not mad at the single ladies who don’t want to do that it’s their choice leave them alone! Shalom!

If you need further proof of how trippy Nigerians get once they get put in a position of power (no matter how small), just go and look into CDS excos.

Nigerian men, they are craving you oooo

Please don't let anyone go hungry around you, if you can help 🙏

Shouted at one of my coworkers yesterday, and she truly didn't deserve it, because I was having a bad day. She kept trying to play jokes with me, and it was pissing me off. Came to work this morning and bought her chicken to say sorry and she also bought me food to say she is sorry if she provoked me yesterday! I don hide my chicken first😂

I’m asking men from other countries to stay out of conversations about Nigerian women. You cannot understand how we are wired because you cannot understand the struggles that shaped us. Literally, we are the monsters these men made.We have had to fight for respect, fight to heard

This reminds me of a 45 year old man I met when I was in 300L. He was desperately ready to get married, but I couldn’t imagine myself marrying a man that age, so I introduced him to my coursemate, who was a single mother of four. Guess what? They are happily married today. She told him upfront that she wasn’t interested in having more children, and he agreed. Today, all four children bear his name. But here’s the part that will annoy some people: She was a single mother of four, yet she didn’t negotiate her standards to make a man choose her. She didn’t beg him to accept her situation, promise him more children to secure a marriage or pretend to be someone she wasn’t. He knew exactly what he was signing up for, and he married her anyway. Some of you need to understand that being a single mother doesn’t mean a woman should abandon her standards or accept whatever comes her way. A woman can have four children and still refuse to settle for less. Deal with it.

People whose fathers sit at home drinking kaikai in the morning while their mothers go to the market and farm to hustle, will say the majority of Nigerian women are breadwinners. Then you, an Igbo girl whose father gave everything in the world will join them. Because borrowing trauma is cute.

Because council tax is not money??

The clown who did the “dance of shame” obviously saw my tweet. 🤡🤡🤡 That tweet went far beyond what I imagined. The werey captioned me on her post on TikTok 😂😂😂😂 “Single ladies, don’t be an understanding wife oh. When you do 50/50 with your partner, the rest 50% he will carry it outside to chop other girls.”……. This is the thought process of the average Nigerian woman abroad.

I slept alone last night despite the heavy rain. I even had to go to bed very early 💔😔 🥶

My own take is that, as a lady living in this country, you can’t claim to love your partner and expect them to foot all the bills, unless you’re wishing them an untimely death.

My own take is that, as a lady living in this country, you can’t claim to love your partner and expect them to foot all the bills, unless you’re wishing them an untimely death.

You would think this is just for content, but it is the reality. I have a friend in the UK who is a nurse. While he was still in Nigeria, he had been asking a particular lady out, but she repeatedly turned him down. It was only when she found out that his Japa plans had finally worked out that she agreed to date him. He arranged an emergency introduction and court wedding before leaving for the UK. He later returned to Nigeria for an elaborate wedding ceremony and eventually took her to the UK. The lady is a Nigerian-registered nurse. However, when she arrived in the UK, she started working in the care sector. She didn’t even work more than two days a week, and she was unwilling to support her husband financially. She never contributed to the household, not even towards the smallest expenses. Meanwhile, the man would boast about being an Odogwu who could single-handedly take care of his family. She obtained her UK nursing registration and suddenly stopped working. Recently, she called her husband and asked him to sponsor her younger brother, who is in Nigeria, for his master’s degree in the UK. Her husband jokingly asked her, “Is that why you have been saving so aggressively all this while, while refusing to contribute anything to this family?” She got angry and stopped cooking or doing anything around the house. That was the beginning of the marital crisis. She has now secured a nursing job and moved out of the matrimonial home to live independently. What people are doing in Nigeria is not love.

Husband is relaxing in the house, wife is washing a mountain of clothes outside under the sun. After this she’ll still go ahead and cook. She does this every day and still take care of the kids. You see this kind of marriage? I reject it for myself, Sisters, Friends and female mutuals.

I think the problem here is the men’s definition of “CONTRIBUTING “. So until I do 50/50 with you that’s when you will agree that I am contributing cos why are they saying “council tax” “groceries “ is not contributing. Even if it’s 98% to 2%, it justifies my post✌🏾

Most of you Men better pray hard your daughters never date or end up with a man like YOU.

Can someone educate me, please? Nigerian women living abroad, whether married to or dating Nigerian men, how exactly does this 50/50 arrangement work? Do you split everything financially down to the last penny? And do the men also split household responsibilities 50/50? Chores, cooking, cleaning and everything that comes with running a home? Or is it just the bills that are expected to be shared equally while the responsibilities at home remain largely on the woman's shoulders? I genuinely want to understand because I don't live abroad, and I don't understand the dynamics behind all this 50/50 debate that's been dominating my timeline. I also want to believe that some Nigerian men living abroad are married to Nigerian women or are in relationships with them. Do your wives split the bills 50/50? Do your girlfriends contribute equally? And if some women come out to say they don't believe in splitting bills 50/50, why does that suddenly become an excuse to drag and generalise all Nigerian women? That's the part I don't understand. Now, because of this same argument, foreigners have joined in to insult and generalise Nigerian women, and some Nigerian men are happily clapping along. Well, I'm not surprised. Anything to drag a Nigerian woman, anything to disparage, degrade or humiliate her, and some of you are right there, eager to join in. Put all Nigerian women under one tweet and watch how excited some of you become. Some of you will eventually marry Nigerian women. Some of you already have Nigerian wives. You have mothers, sisters, female cousins and other female relatives. Yet you find it so easy to insult an entire population of women because of the actions or opinions of a few. We all know that not every Nigerian woman thinks or behaves the same way. So why is it so difficult to make that distinction? Honestly, the level of excitement and the kind of erection some of you have been getting from this gender war over the past few days is something else. Some people genuinely enjoy having a reason to hate and insult women. Keep being the idiots you are. Some men are just completely off it for me.

If I were a man, there are a lot of things i would never do. First on my list is sending a someone transport to come and spend my money😭🤣

And if you as a single person is paying all your bills yourself and you couple up Life should get easier and better for you and your partner not one person getting the burnt of it. Save to say you people are not kind to each other.