The Inner Approach

“Male depression is nearly always a result of learned helplessness. But health providers treat it like female depression and try to make men feel loved instead of powerful.” — @TheBrometheus

Choose your suck. “Every single pursuit – no matter how wonderful and exciting and glamorous it may initially seem – comes with its own brand of shit sandwich, its own lousy side effects. ‘Everything sucks some of the time.’ You just have to decide what sort of suckage you’re willing to deal with. So the question is not so much ‘What are you passionate about?’ The question is ‘What are you passionate enough about that you can endure the most disagreeable aspects of the work?’ Because if you love something and want something enough – whatever it is – then you don’t really mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.” — @markmanson

"The first rule of motivation is to use what you have. And a lot more people have anger and pain and shame. Use whatever you have to get you over the action threshold, then go chasing a positive win once you're moving." — @AlexHormozi 🔗 youtu.be/YB84RuWyiqY

A small number of men are having more sex than ever. “While the number of young men who report having no sexual experiences is increasing, there are also some men who have more sex partners than ever before. In 2002 the most sexually active top 20% of American heterosexual men had 12 lifetime sex partners while the top 5% had 38. Ten years later, the most sexually active top 20% now reported 15 lifetime sex partners and the top 5% of men reported 50. During the same time, there was no such change in the number of sex partners for heterosexual women.” This suggests that an increasingly small number of men are capturing an increasingly large portion of sexual interest from women, while an increasingly large number of men are having no sex at all. — @DegenRolf

"Male depression is usually based on feeling helpless, powerless, and unable to affect one's own life. Therapy models focus on helping men feel heard and loved instead of restoring their sense of personal power. Men need solutions, not just feelings." — @TheBrometheus