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Sad Reality…… Yes, this is a harsh reality, but it’s not all men, but it’s getting harder to tell the difference….#staywoke

Skin Diamond says that in porn, interracial only counts when it’s a Black man and a white girl. Most of her own scenes are with white performers, but since she’s a Black woman, nobody calls it interracial. She says a hot new white starlet’s agent will usually tell her to stay away from Black men on camera, even if she dates them in real life, because it might hurt her career. Skin herself did very well, but she thinks she didn’t get the same opportunities as other girls because of her color, and that it’s even harder for other women of color. The host brought up Alexis Texas, who at the time had never shot a scene with a Black man. When the host’s site put Alexis at number one on a list of the top 100 white porn stars, a Black director refused to share it because she didn’t work with Black men. Rolling Stone later described the same pattern across the industry. Companies pay A-list white actresses well above their usual rate for their first interracial scene, so many of them hold out for years while their agents take a cut of the premium. The BBC reported that Black actresses earn half to three quarters of what white women make for the same work. Years after this interview, once performers started calling it out publicly, AVN apologized and promised to drop categories like interracial and ethnic from its awards. Skin Diamond’s real name is Raylin Joy. She was born in California in 1987 and grew up in Dunfermline, Scotland, where her parents worked as missionaries. She shot her first porn scenes in Paris while she was still living in Scotland, and CNBC put her on its list of porn’s most popular stars three years running. She appeared with Allie Haze in B.o.B’s video for John Doe, and in 2016 she quit porn to sing under her real name. A missionaries’ daughter from Scotland became one of the biggest names in porn, and her scenes still didn’t count as interracial. Is porn the most racist industry in entertainment, or just the only one that puts a price tag on it?

Hugh Grant paid her $100 for 10 minutes in his BMW. She made $1.6 million telling the world he needed a baby condom. Her name was Estella Marie Thompson, but the world knew her as Divine Brown. On June 27, 1995, police found her in Grant’s white BMW on the Sunset Strip and arrested them both for lewd conduct. Grant was dating Elizabeth Hurley at the time, one of the most photographed women on the planet. His mugshot ran on front pages everywhere. Brown went from a street corner to the tabloids, Penthouse, a Brazilian lingerie commercial and her own adult film. In the video below, Stern asks how she knew Grant wasn’t a cop. “Because he showed me that big whopper,” she says. Cops aren’t allowed to do that. Stern lines up a cucumber, an eggplant and a hot dog and asks which one was closest. She refuses to insult him, so they hand her four drawings. She picks the smallest, about an inch. “You couldn’t even put the condom on,” Stern says. “You needed a baby condom.” Then she describes the arrest. When the police shone a flashlight through the window, Grant’s pants were still down. Instead of denying anything, he started talking right away and told them who he was and that he’d paid her. “What a fool,” she says. Grant went on Jay Leno a week later and said, “I did a bad thing.” Hurley stayed with him for five more years. Brown bought a house in Beverly Hills and said the money put her daughters through private school. In 2006 she published a memoir and called it Million Dollar Hooker. So who actually got screwed that night: the movie star who paid $100, or the woman who walked away with a million?

Mr. Marcus says he thought the rash on his hands was just stress. He tried lotion, vitamins and cortisone, kept showing it to people on set and asking what it was, and figured it was a skin thing. Then his private doctor ran a blood test and it came back positive for syphilis. In this interview he blames the testing schedule. Performers got checked for HIV, chlamydia and gonorrhea every month, but for syphilis only twice a year. According to him, nobody in America was thinking about syphilis and the outbreak came over from Europe. He's pro choice on condoms and says he trusts the testing system. The court record reads differently. His Wikipedia page says that back in May 2012 a performer noticed marks on his penis and refused to work with him. On July 13 he got a penicillin shot after testing positive, and on July 21 he tested positive again. Prosecutors say he then covered up the syphilis result on a photocopy of his test form and used that copy to work two shoots, on July 24 and July 26. A producer spotted that the paperwork had been altered, and the two actresses from those shoots went to the police. Nearly a dozen performers tested positive that summer, and the whole industry stopped filming for about 10 days. Another performer who worked with him in June later sued the studio, saying it should have known. In June 2013 he pleaded no contest to knowingly exposing others to a communicable disease. He got 30 days in jail, 36 months of probation and 15 days of community labor. AP reported that by then he was already in jail on $200,000 bail in an unrelated drunk driving case. The DA said neither actress from those two shoots caught syphilis. One report says he probably picked it up on set and may not have been patient zero. His defense called the prosecution political, because the scandal hit right as LA County was about to vote on mandatory condoms in porn, which passed that November. He'd been in the business 19 years, was in the AVN Hall of Fame, and was once called the LL Cool J of porn. In this same interview he gets credit for making hats in bed sexy and names stamina as his proudest achievement. Asked whether that's camera tricks, he says "a good editor helps." Honest mistake that spiralled, or the worst lie in porn history?

Lexington Steele has seen men fight on porn sets, naked and still hard, and he says breaking it up is the funniest thing in the world, because you're trying to get between them without anything touching you. He came close to a fight himself. He was shooting in Prague or Hungary for West Coast Productions with Darren James, Justin Slayer, Mr. Marcus and Mark Anthony when one of the guys kept refusing to be on the bottom in a DP. Lex was tired of always being the one stuck down there, so he got up off the bed and they went at it. He won't say who it was. One of the few times he couldn't perform, he says, was with a girl drinking so heavily she couldn't do her part, and fans who watch a guy fail on camera have no idea what happened behind the scenes. Nikki Benz has never seen women fight in her girl-girl-boy scenes, since casting usually sorts out who won't work with whom. Her story is about a female co-star at a rented house who kept sneaking the owners' alcohol while the director wasn't looking, got drunk and arrogant, and started trying to fight people until she was sent home before the crew could beat her up. Vlad adds that his friend Swave beat up a couple of dudes on sets over the years, and he remembers a Seymour Butts reality show that aired girls in a fistfight. Two of the men on Lex's trip made headlines later. Mr. Marcus faked a syphilis test in 2012, helped shut the industry down, and went to jail for it. In April 2004 Darren James tested positive for HIV in routine screening after a condomless shoot in Brazil, where he's believed to have caught it. Production companies stopped shooting, 53 performers who had sex with him or his partners went into quarantine, and at least one actress who worked with him, 21-year-old newcomer Lara Roxx, also tested positive. James later took a job as a security guard, and by 2009 he was arguing for mandatory condoms in porn. Nikki was born in Ukraine in 1981, grew up in Toronto, and became Penthouse Pet of the Year 2011, a title that came with a diamond key necklace. In 2014 she announced a run for mayor of Toronto against Rob Ford, who was in rehab over crack cocaine at the time, and told voters to trade in their Ford for a Benz. The city rejected her application because her Ontario driver's license had expired. In June 2016 Brazzers made her its first brand ambassador. That December she accused director Tony T. of choking her and co-star Ramon Nomar of stomping on her during a shoot called Nikki Goes Nuts, and said it wasn't supposed to be a rape scene. Brazzers cut ties with Tony T. He denied everything, and on the day she went to police, he and Nomar sued her and Brazzers for defamation. Nomar dropped out of that suit in early 2017. In 2018 she sued Brazzers, its parent company MindGeek, Tony T. and Nomar for sexual battery, alleging she was hit on the face, head and breasts until she bled. In 2019 a California appeals court handed her a significant loss in Tony T.'s case against her. Are porn set fights just funny behind-the-scenes stories, or is the stuff that never made it to camera much worse than anything Lex and Nikki told here?

Wesley Pipes went into porn straight out of prison. He’d served three years for trying to carjack someone with a loaded gun. It was the first car he ever got caught on, he says, and when prosecutors offered a plea deal he took it on the spot instead of risking 10 or 15 years at trial. Out on parole, he couldn’t find much work, and he needed money for studio time for his music. So he called Players, a Black magazine from the 90s, and told them he wanted to get into the industry. They sent him to World Modeling, and he shot his first scene that day. He insists it was never about the women. For him it was strictly a hustle. He started before Viagra and Cialis existed. Asked whether there was ever a scene where he couldn’t perform, he answered that he once had sex on camera with a 76-year-old woman. He hates admitting it, but her name was Shirley Ann and it’s all on film. When the cameras roll, he’s ready to go. Born Wesley Lawrence in Mississippi in 1969, he took his stage name from Wesley Snipes and got into porn in 1998. The Internet Adult Film Database lists him in more than a thousand films. He went into the Urban X Hall of Fame in 2009 and the AVN Hall of Fame in 2015, and that same year a director announced Pipes had inoperable cancer. He went from an armed carjacking to more than a thousand films and a scene with a 76-year-old woman. Did porn save Wesley Pipes, or was it just a hustle that paid better?

Sasha Grey was 18 on her first day on a porn set. Her co-star was 50, one of the biggest names in the industry, and before the cameras rolled she asked him to punch her in the stomach. He was so shocked he refused. 8 months later she had filmed over 80 adult movies, including one scene with 15 men, and sat on national TV describing it all like a summer job. Tyra Banks had to stop the show to pull herself together. In the video below, she sits on Tyra's couch and doesn't flinch once. She says porn was never a stranger to her. She'd seen it for years before she ever stepped on set. And she noticed the industry only showed one kind of woman. Her instinct told her: I could do this. Within 8 months, more than 80 films. She calls herself loud, aggressive, dominant and submissive at the same time. She expected to make up to $150,000 that year, minus the days she had to take off for infections. She says the work makes her feel empowered. She doesn't represent the industry. She represents herself. That first scene, she was nervous all day, terrified she'd freeze up. Once the cameras rolled, she says she felt completely in her element. Tyra asks where she draws the line. Her answer is short. Nothing involving children. Nothing involving animals. Everything else is on the table. Then the hardest conversation. Two weeks after moving to LA, her mom and sister came to visit. She showed them around Hollywood, took them to dinner, and spent the whole night trying to find the words. "I can't expect to get respect from you unless I have the respect to tell you." Her mom said her body was a temple. Her sister laughed, the scared kind of laugh. Tyra admits on air that this interview is really hard for her. Sasha talks about all of it so lightly. What happened next is the twist nobody saw coming. A few years later, she walked away from porn completely. Oscar-winning director Steven Soderbergh cast her as the lead in a movie. She landed a role on HBO's Entourage. She wrote novels, became a DJ and built a huge following as a gamer and streamer. Everyone on that TV set thought they were watching a girl throw her life away. She was the only one who already had a plan. Some lessons are written in other people's mistakes. Watch it once. Remember it forever.

At 18 Vanessa Del Rio was programming computers. Then stole cars across America for two years, got arrested, ended up on the streets of New York as a prostitute, moved to strip clubs, shot her first adult film for $150 to cover rent. Over 100 films. One of the biggest names in the industry. Arrested for drugs. Did time. Quit when AIDS hit and producers still didn't care. In the video below, she sits down for a rare 1986 TV interview - and says something nobody expected her to say. The only real victims in p*rnography are the people in front of the camera. She said you lose something of yourself. Said she didn't know how to love because she was channeling everything through the camera. Had to shut down certain emotions just to function - and didn't realize what that cost her until years later. She grew up with violence at home. Father beat her. A relative made advances on her as a child. None of it came into focus until she was sitting in a jail cell after a drug arrest, looking at her life from the outside for the first time. She started bodybuilding in jail. First decision she'd made purely for herself in years. Retired at the peak. Not because the money stopped. Because she grew out of it. Said the industry had gotten worse since she left. Women coming in by the truckload. One-day shoots. No budgets. Just a meat market. She saw it clearly now because she was finally outside it. Is Vanessa Del Rio proof that you can build an empire out of something and still walk away whole, or did she just get out before it finished taking what was left?

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