i am but a single woman in tech, but my tech career started off by being forced to participate in a marketing video that made an oblique reference to semen on my (blue) dress, i watched men spy in interview rooms of female engineers to see if they were "hot" enough to hire, interns expected to participate in frat drinking culture then preyed upon by senior leaders, my own ass grabbed and being told "what? i like you" by a founder of the company, finding out that my own ($32k / year!!!!) was less than every other man on team w same role, told that i would be insane to have kids and be a founder and thank god i wasn't doing that (i was 6 weeks pregnant at the time), had an AE complain that I (the CPO of the company!!!!) was "too busy playing with my baby" to travel to *his* deals even though i returned from mat leave at 4 weeks and even took my 1 year old to vegas so i could keynote our user conference, watched every woman in my department but me get laid off and when i called it out was told "well but you know all of them were crazy," have been THE ONLY woman in almost every board room i've been in (both on operator side and board member side), get called "that broad" when i give a talk on some of the biggest stages in tech, may i go on. i have done well for myself DESPITE all this. i'm raising boys and don't think the vilification of men has been healthy in many aspects of our industry and culture, but I don't think my experience is unique so calling it "DEI fanfiction" is a BIT MUCH.