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Sexual Market Value, Divorce, and the Nigerian Couple: A Market Analysis
The SMV Framework
Sir Dickson's thesis on Sexual Market Value (SMV) posits that human sexuality operates like any other commodity market, labour, capital, or goods, where exchange occurs based on perceived value, and that perceived value is heavily indexed to age. Specifically, a woman's sexual desirability peaks in youth and declines with age, while a man's desirability peaks later, rising in proportion to his financial and social status. This asymmetry in the timing of peak value between the sexes is the engine that drives the market's dysfunction.
This is not mere theory, the evidence is visible in the growing population of unmarried Nigerian women aged 30 - 40, both in Nigeria and in the UK diaspora, a demographic reality that signals a structural breakdown in how matches are being made and sustained.
The Market's Two Transactions: Lease vs. Purchase
I expound on Sir Dickson's framework to distinguish two modes of participation in this market:
A. Leasing: short-term arrangements (flings, situationships, casual relationships) where value is exchanged temporarily, with no expectation of permanence.
B. Outright Purchase: marriage, where a man makes a permanent, legally binding acquisition, historically formalised through bride price and the biblical injunction that "a man shall leave his father's house" to seek a wife.
The critical insight, and the one that connects directly to divorce, is that these two transactions are governed by entirely different motivations, yet, they draw from the same pool of participants, and crucially, they do not happen simultaneously for men and women.
The Timing Mismatch: The Root of Divorce
Consider the archetypical case: a 33-year-old Nigerian man marrying a 32-year-old Nigerian woman.
Her journey through the market:
In her early-to-mid twenties, she was at peak SMV. Older, financially established men - "sugar daddies" and "big bros" - leased her commodity. These men, having already climbed the economic ladder, concealed the struggle behind gifts: phones, chocolates, trips, and attention. To her young mind, this generosity was maturity. She had no reference point for the years of grinding that produced it. What she absorbed instead was a standard - a baseline expectation of what men do, what men provide, and how men treat women. By 32, she carries multiple body counts, a finely tuned sense of entitlement, and a definition of male maturity that was written by men who were 15–20 years ahead of where her future husband currently stands.
His journey through the market:
Culture and biology conspired against his early participation. He was socialised to understand that access to the market is conditional on financial capacity, that is, without money, he would receive, at best, reluctant and loveless engagement (pity fuck). So he delayed, focused on building, and by 33, he is stable enough to participate meaningfully. But rather than leasing, which would have been the rational market entry point, he goes directly to purchase. He marries.
The collision:
Inside the marriage, she unconsciously benchmarks him against the men of her leasing years. He is found wanting, not because he is inadequate in absolute terms, but because he is being compared to men who were decades ahead of him when she knew them. She reads his stage of development as immaturity. He reads her expectations as unreasonable. When he raises the question of shared financial responsibility in the home, she meets it with contempt, because the men in her formative years never asked her to split anything.
She married to exit the market, He married believing he had finally entered it. Both are disappointed, and the divorce follows.
The realization that it will not be actually easy for APC to win 👇
NDC needs to be honest with itself. Does the party realise how difficult it would be to secure at least 25% of the votes in 24 states??
They can only get 25% in 17 states
12 states from south (imo, Anambra, Enugu, Ebonyi, Abia, Delta, Rivers, cross rivers, Bayelsa, Edo, Akwa Ibomand Lagos)
5 states from the North (Benue, Plateau, Nasarawa, Kano & Taraba)
And you want to become president
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
I thought you inherited a lot of real estate from your parents Sir
When I first arrived in the United States as a young man, I drove a taxi to earn money for my education. I even had to postpone starting school for several months to save enough.
When I eventually got to Chicago, I worked different jobs to support myself and pay my way through university. I know what it means to worry about tuition, accommodation and how to make ends meet while pursuing an education.
Those experiences have stayed with me.
I know what education made possible in my own life, and I believe every Nigerian child deserves that same opportunity, regardless of where they are born or what their parents can afford.
This is one reason education remains a major priority of our Renewed Hope administration.
Through NELFUND, we have provided over ₦372 billion in student loans for institutional fees and upkeep, helping young Nigerians remain in school and pursue their education.
Our technical and vocational education programme has attracted over 2.8 million applications. We have rehabilitated 38 technical colleges, while students in federal and selected state technical colleges now benefit from free school fees, boarding, textbooks and uniforms.
We have reached a new agreement with ASUU, providing for a 40% increase in academic staff remuneration and measures to improve stability in our universities.
A four-year course must take four years. Our young people deserve to complete their education on time and get on with their lives. Promise made, Promise Kept
In medical education, we are investing ₦110 billion in rehabilitating 24 medical schools. Annual nursing enrolment has increased from 28,000 to 115,000, while medical and dental enrolment has risen from 5,000 to 12,000.
Nigeria needs more doctors, nurses and other healthcare professionals, and we must build the capacity to train them here at home.
Over one million children who were previously out of school have been returned to learning. We are investing in teacher development, expanding educational opportunities for girls, and implementing a new national curriculum that restores Nigerian History to our classrooms.
Our children must know where we have come from, understand the country they belong to, and be prepared to take responsibility for its future.
I commend the Honourable Minister of Education, Dr Tunji Alausa @DrTunjiAlausa, the Minister of State, Professor Suwaiba Sa’id Ahmad @Suwaiba_Said, and the entire education team @NigEducation for their dedication to this important work.
I am particularly pleased that the team has developed an interactive A–Z of the Nigeria Education Sector Renewal Initiative (NESRI), bringing together the reforms, programmes, achievements and opportunities across our education system.
I invite every Nigerian to visit edu4pbat.ng and explore the A–Z of NESRI.
If you are a parent, find out what opportunities are available for your children. If you are a student, explore the programmes you can benefit from. If you are a teacher, see what support is available.
And if something is not working as it should in your community, I want to hear about it. Your feedback will help us identify problems and address them.
Our journey from reform to opportunities and shared prosperity must begin with education.
The circumstances of a child’s birth should never determine the limits of their ambition. Our responsibility is to give every Nigerian child a fair chance to fulfil their potential.
We have more work to do, and I am determined to see it through.
Bola Ahmed Tinubu, GCFR
President
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
Sometimes, when I look back at some of the things that have happened in this nation and how corruption has always fought back, I just shake my head.
Let me tell you an interesting story.
In 2005, Adolphus Wabara was the Senate President of Nigeria under the administration of Chief Olusegun Obasanjo.
During the preparation and approval of the 2005 budget by the National Assembly, the Senate Committee on Education discovered that the Ministry of Education's budget was very bogus.
So, what did the committee do?
The Senate Committee threatened to slice or block the budget allocation for the Ministry of Education.
To ensure that the ministry's budget was passed intact or inflated, the then Minister of Education, Professor Fabian Osuji, mobilised ₦55 million.
According to Professor Osuji, the ₦55 million was not a bribe but rather a necessary "welfare package" demanded by lawmakers to protect the education sector.
Now, you will ask, how was Professor Osuji able to mobilise the money?
Well, to raise the money, Professor Osuji directed ministry officials to extract ₦35 million from votes under their control.
Because that was not enough, he went further to secure an additional ₦20 million illegal loan from the National Universities Commission (NUC).
President Olusegun Obasanjo later received intelligence about the transaction.
In a dramatic, televised national broadcast in March 2005, Obasanjo unmasked the actors and declared their actions a betrayal of public trust.
But President Olusegun Obasanjo did not stop there.
He summarily dismissed Fabian Osuji, while the Senate President, Adolphus Wabara, was forced to resign his leadership position.
The Independent Corrupt Practices Commission (ICPC) subsequently arraigned them alongside several other lawmakers.
Interestingly, in 2010, in a controversial ruling, the Court of Appeal, presided over by Justice Mary Peter-Odili, quashed the 15-count charge against Wabara, Osuji and others.
According to the court, the charges were "frivolous and baseless" and failed to establish a prima facie case. The court also criticised Obasanjo's broadcast as an executive "trial by media" that prejudiced the case.
But the story did not end there.
In 2013, the case got to the Supreme Court, and the judgment of the Court of Appeal presided over by Justice Mary Odili was overturned.
The Supreme Court held that Osuji's statements and the evidence presented were more than enough to warrant a trial and ordered an accelerated retrial at the lower court.
Interestingly, when the case returned to the High Court in 2019, Justice S.E. Aladetoyinbo discharged and acquitted Adolphus Wabara and two other co-defendant senators.
Why?
Because, after 14 years of trial, the ICPC could no longer produce witnesses to testify.
With the witnesses unavailable, the ICPC applied to withdraw the case, leaving the court with no choice but to acquit the defendants under Section 355 of the Administration of Criminal Justice Act 2015.
Nigeria has always been a case of the more you look, the less you see.
I am Ekene Aninze, Esq.
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
To be an elder and this foolish, is a curse.
So Tinubu at 80+ still has classmates at University of Chicago? God abeg
Ahhhhhhhhhhhh......
I heard that the entire Pseudo-Feminists of the Nigerian Chapter all had a mental breakdown after seeing this....
Messages was flying up and down on WhatsApp and iMessage..
They will come for VJ with a vengeance. How dare she show a happy marriage.
🤣🤣
You know the story to be false, but you manufactured it anyway because you want to pass a lesson of?
Be content, your time will come.
My friend Japa'd to the UK 3 years ago. We all celebrated him.
He was always posting nice places, new iPhone, Tesco, train. He was always shouting "You guys should leave Nigeria, there's nothing here."
Last month, he finally invited his wife and 2 kids to join him. We even did surprise party for them.
Two weeks after they left, his wife messaged me privately. Disturbed.
She said, "Please, ask your friend where we are."
I said, "What do you mean? You are in the UK now na."
She said, "We are in one room. Me, my husband, my two kids, and two other guys from his village. We sleep on the floor. He shares one toilet with 8 people. He works 18 hours as a cleaner and security. The house is full of mold. He never had any house. He was sleeping in his car for 4 months. All those fine pictures were on his day off, at random fine streets."
She said, "He borrowed £4,000 to bring us here. We are worse than we were in Lagos. In Lagos we had a 2-bedroom flat. Here we are begging to breathe."
My friend called me later that night angry, saying his wife is spoiling his image. That she should be patient. That everybody starts like that.
I told him, "But you lied. You sold suffering as soft life."
He said, "If I told the truth, who will respect me?"
That's when I understood. Most people abroad are not living. They are just surviving and packaging.
If this is true - let us say that for the sake of conspiracy, that it is, vis a vis an order from Tel Aviv to Jewish groups to vote Democrats - then I fear for what the Israelis are planning to do with the help of Democrats..
I suspect Israel to have more kompromat on Democrats office holders than Republicans.
A survey by US-based Jewish advocacy group J Street shows that 72% of American Jewish voters cast their ballots for the Democratic Party candidates in the 2026 midterm elections on November 3.
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As expected.....
Waste of resources and time, all for what?
To rub in the face of Trump and Netanyahu?
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
Man Utd come from 2-0 down to beat Roma 😤
#UCL
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
In my family, my parents live abroad but they have their PVCs. We had to call extended family meeting and said NO PVC, no SUPPORT anymore. Person no go Dey hustle abroad and you go just balance.
You have to vote for NDC
You have to vote for Peter Obi.
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
The handlers of NELFUND claim that they have disbursed a total of N373bn to almost 1.7m tertiary institution students.
Nigeria presently has about 2m tertiary institution students.
That's about 85% of Nigerian students.
There is no way this can be true and students don't want Tinubu back.
He should look at those figures closely and perhaps, order out a forensic audit on them.
He'll discover the truth.
End.
Sir Collins, MAAT. retweeted
I want to see more of this. This one is even lucky that police came to rescue him. APC and their minions aren’t the only ones who have the monopoly of violence.
Dear Akin,
Please stop disgracing your ancestors.
A girl that likes/loves you would always want to talk to you.
You are the mumu ATM begging for attention while she is billing you and fucking someone else.
Grow up and fling her away.
Regards
This means that the Republican pollsters were correct that if Republicans turnout enmass (which they didn't do) then the GOP would retain control of Congress
🇺🇲 Democrats brought the MIDTERM ENERGY last night, and the GOP paid the price...
Dem. voters appeared far more ENERGIZED heading into the midterms. Republicans struggled to generate the same enthusiasm without Trump on the ballot.
Early turnout patterns suggested WEAK GOP participation in certain parts of the country.
At the same time, independents and key voting blocs that backed Trump in 2024 shifted dramatically toward Democrats.
Democrats showed up like a president was on the ballot.
Republicans? Not so much.
Source: CBS News, Pew / Writer: Marie
